Good, bad or ugly, relationships are a part of life. While, we all expect a fairy tale romance, we fail to understand that every relationship has its highs and lows that result in common mistakes. And, as we move on, these are the five lessons we must keep in mind.
Don’t depend on someone else to be happy
Your partner should not be the sole reason for your happiness but he/she should definitely be a part of it. Even when you are madly in love, ensure that you give enough space to each other. Going out, having fun, meeting people or travelling need not be dependent on your partner’s schedule. Learn to spend quality time by yourself and with the people you love (friends, parents, etc.) and doing things you feel good about. A happy you will make a happier relationship. “One must have the confidence to lead a fulfilled life on their own, you cannot depend on your partner for every small thing. In fact, too much closeness will only lead to tiffs.
Stay independent in your approach, learn to keep yourself happy even when you are alone,” says counsellor Atul Purohit.
Do not expect things to be perfect
“None of us are made perfect, and our flaws are something that define us. Do not expect your partner to be someone right out of your dreams; this will create a lot of pressure to sustain the relationship. In fact, a lot of people lie to their partners about their likes and dislikes, their capabilities, as well as their finances, just to avoid disappointment,” says clinical psychologist Raina Bhist. There is nothing like a perfect relationship, a knight in shining armour or a damsel in distress. These can only be a part of fairy tales. We are all human, and we all make mistakes. Do not have unrealistic, high expectations from your partner. This could lead to heartbreak. Make sure you are doing enough to make the relationship work, and everything else will fall in place.